Valencia Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

I Work With All Couples – Married or Not

Relationships are not always easy. Each person brings their unique values, beliefs, communication styles, and life experiences. When you and your partner are facing challenges, these systems often come into question and can lead to arguing and feelings of frustration, resentment, and despair. When meeting with couples, my goal is to honor individual differences, identify commonalities and strengths in the relationship, and explore healthier ways of connecting and relating to one another. As a couple, you will grow together and learn effective ways of communicating and resolving conflicts.

Contact me, Chelsea Spagnola, MS, LMFT, today at (661) 766-5011 to schedule an appointment.

Is Couple’s Counseling Right for Me?

If you’re asking yourself this question, it won’t hurt to talk to a therapist. Some people are reluctant to speak with a couple’s counselor because they think it means they’ve somehow “failed” at being in a relationship. The problem with this way of thinking is that it makes you view your relationship in unrealistic terms. There is no succeeding or failing in relationships, only experiences and choices. If you are having difficulties and want things to improve, then couple’s counseling is one of the most positive steps you can take for yourself, your partner, and your relationship.

There is no one reason why people seek couple’s counseling, but there are some common feelings that motivate people to explore it. These include:

  • Feeling like you’re living with a roommate rather than a partner
  • Frequent arguments that end when both parties are tired of talking rather than real resolution
  • Difficulty communicating with each other
  • Thoughts or fantasies of having an affair
  • Considering divorce or separation
  • Wanting to stay together for the sake of the children
  • Negative life experiences that are impacting your relationship

The reasons above may not apply to you and should not be taken as the only reasons to undergo couple’s counseling. If you think you can benefit from it, then that’s reason enough.

Call (661) 766-5011 today to schedule an appointment with me.